I am not referring to Hi-Bye friends or even the ones we tend to hang out with. I am talking about the category of people whom we considered our ‘best friends’.
I understand that friendships wane out after a point of time. Sometimes because of work, but mostly due to marriages/ kids and shifted priorities. In most cases, we tend to get out of touch with friends gradually and even then look forward to meeting them someday.
But what I don’t understand is, why do people break friendships? Especially after being a close friend for many years?
I have seen people dump friendships over quarrel, financial gain, jealousy and other such factors. But why would anyone break a friendship without a reason?
I am not a relationship wizard or something, and I am certainly not a person who makes hundreds of friends in a jiffy.
I am also not talking about the friends we make at work, who almost always indulge in back biting and passing on information to bosses after being so sweet upfront. They have certain things to gain here, and I quite understand that. I don’t even consider to classify these people under the category of best-friends.
But, when a friend has been so close for years together, has already stayed with us through thick and thin, why do these people do certain things that they know would break the friendship instantly? Especially, when they have zero gain by doing such a thing.
Are we at a fault during such a situation? Have they gone through difficult times and hence want to ‘take it off’ on us? Is it some kind of envy or something? Should we handle such situations more compassionately?
I can’t get into specifics here, but why do people do such things? And what can we do about them?