What I am learning from Women (Bloggers)…
All these years of blogging have not gone totally waste. By following and commenting on blogs written by women (also), I have gained new skills. Sample this –
For a few years (now), there used to be a routine of arguments and disagreements between me and my bike-mechanic. I will give him a budget for bike-servicing and he always overshoots this saying this part had to be changed, that needed some tweaking, etc. I just couldn’t win these arguments, especially since I was trying to find fault with the technicalities of automobiles – which was his strong-hold (obviously!).Â
So, if I give him a budget of 500 rupees for a bike-service, he ends up charging me 600 or 650 rupees. I argue for sometime, but end up giving the amount he asks or something slightly less than that. The work was good, so I didn’t mind.
Before a few months, though, I tried a different approach. As usual I told him that my budget was 500 rupees and asked him not to buy anything new for the bike without my consent (this he always disregards – he doesn’t like me interfering with his job!!). He said, ‘I’ll try’. As usual.
But this time what happened after that was different. Here it is –
Me: You know something?
Him: What?
Me: I lost my job.
Him: Is it?
Me: And you know what?
Him: What???
Me: I have just started a small business
Him: Oh…
Me: I am sure you know the perils of a new businessman and how difficult it is to manage. You have been in that position yourself, haven’t you?
Him: Yeah…
Me: So, I just wish my bill amount is manageable…
And then I left. Guess what, the bloody bill was 480 rupees, this time.
Had I learned this technique before, I would have saved considerable amount of money!!
So, the message is: Women bloggers, even if you don’t intend to teach, men can learn (and apply) your techniques if they want to. They might even apply it on you – BEWARE 😛
Now I hope to become a ‘Guruvai minjiya shishyan’ – The student who excels over his teacher!! 😀
Destination Infinity
Note to self: Stop being lazy and give that bike for service sometime soon, before it breaks on you when you are driving on a busy road!!
So you put your mechanic on a guilt trip to get him to come under your budget. Are you saying all women (bloggers) do this?
I can make stereotypical statements like, ‘All women bloggers are emotionally manipulative’ and other such social-media headline-friendly magnets.
But for now, lets assume that a few women (that may include bloggers) are emotionally manipulative. Now, do you know why they sometimes resort to such tricks? That’s because they don’t have any other options. They are forced into using such things (primarily used as a defensive strategy, but yes some women use it as an offensive strategy too) by a predominantly male-dominated society.
Fortunately, God has created some weakness in men. Otherwise, like how we pushed certain animals to extinction, we might have done certain unthinkable things. Even now sex-determination is prevalent in certain societies like India, because of this very reason: Male-dominated (feudalistic) culture.
Destination Infinity
Wow! Must read/interact with your circle of women bloggers, Rajesh! Very smart tactic you learnt from them! I must learn this too 😀
LOL @ ‘I must learn it too’ 🙂
Destination Infinity
I couldn’t connect what women bloggers to do with your budget management on bike-repair?
same question.. didnt get it 😛
How are women bloggers related to this? Do they emotionally manipulate by telling lies? 😛
BTW, there were no lies in my statements. All of them were true, but slightly exaggerated 🙂
Destination Infinity
Reading again, even I couldn’t connect the two 😛
Destination Infinity
endha technique naan borrow pannikalama? next time naan serviceku vidarapo?
I don’t have a copyright or patent on this technique. And by mentioning it on my blog, I only attempt to open-source it.
Destination Infinity
Close call on the women stuff. I hope no feminist blogger gets offended by this. (One of my feminist friend would have surely pointed it out). 😛
Maybe you should forward this post to her. Also ask her to read my reply to the first commenter.
Destination infinity
How do women bloggers relate with the bill or the mechanic
Yea, that’s what I am also wondering 😛
Destination Infinity
nice story yes message is important bike needs servicing time to time
Yes, high-time I gave my bike for servicing!!!
Destination Infinity
You are confusing women bloggers and the mecanic too!
Yes, when I am myself confused such things happen 🙂
Destination Infinity
That’s a smart trick.
It took so many years of connecting with the right people, to learn!
Destination Infinity
I am still not sure as to where the connection is, but somewhere my mind tells that you might probably be right!
Cryptic comment for a cryptic post? Hmmm… 🙂
Destination Infinity
Hey, if you are in KK Nagar or Alwarthirunagar, I can recommend a good bike mechanic. There are two reasons why your bill may be high
1. It simply costs that much
2. You are easily manipulated (holds good for both the mechanic and women blogger scenarios)
I’m sure for 480 bucks your mechanic must be cutting corners 🙂 So either change your bike or the mechanic.
No, I don’t stay in KK Nagar or nearby areas. I just went there for the tree walk. Your point no. 1 maybe true and I also risk the mechanic changing some good part with some second-grade part and charging less. But I am trying to negotiate because I don’t want him to overcharge. And I want him to change only those parts that need to be changed, not some good working parts and charging me higher for it.
I used to be easily manipulated. But these days, after following the right people (for a considerable amount of time), I am learning quickly 😛
Destination Infinity
Rajesh, you put some lesson into good use and saved you some money 😀
Hmmm…. 🙂
Destination Infinity
Huh what is the connection btn women blogger and ur trip to the mechanic???
Unless u just wanted to have an argument with ur women blog friends for the sake of it 😉